like a not-insignifant portion of the things i write here and think elsewhere
the post below was, on some level, a belated fuck-you to the friend that told a, ah, mutual acquaintance that she was concerned about me (oh, IRL concern trolls, how much i “love” thee) because she thought i was fucked up because i want a career but i don’t want to get married so that spoke to my being afraid of family or love or something.
SO TEMPTED was i to tell her how concerned i was about her because i thought she was fucked up because her need to get married spoke to her inability to be happy alone, but that is not a thing i actually believed and i do try mostly not to be an asshole, so i didn’t.
BUT I MEAN REALLY. you can turn that shit either way; one is just what society wants us to think whereas the other one is weird by societal standards. kind of like the femininity thing! and - like the femininity thing, and a lot of things - BOTH THINGS ARE DOUCHEY THINGS TO DO.
