like — i know i keep promising things will be the last things i ever say about The Show That Must Not Be Named, but i mean it this time!!!!! — when i say “man this does not speak to my reality at all” it’s not because i’m not rich and it’s not because i’m not white (i mean, i am white, right), but it’s because i’m not that fucking miserable. i saw someone somewhere be like “if you say you can’t relate to the characters on [redacted] you’re lying” and it’s like, uhhhh i mean i feel sorry for you that that’s your reality, but. so what does it mean that this thing getting accolades in many places for being Very Real — and i’m not saying it’s not to a lot of people, if it speaks to you, that’s cool and, like, best wishes that changes someday (or if you just think it’s funny or whatever, you know, rock on) — i’m just saying that this thing that, in its title, sets itself up to be considered A Statement On Female Experience, that [person redacted] said she created to represent Women Like Her, that has lots of people, including an awful lot of men, getting into, like, “yes, at least, someone has spoken the truth about those embarrassing girls who embarrass themselves all the time, how refreshing” — what does it say about how people conceive of The Female Experience? (like, the other recent thing i can think of that was unjustly hailed as Speaking For A Generation, the social network, features a lot of dudes, um, being really successful and like blah blah you have no soul, cry me a river [justin timberlake joke not intended] — although, like, in that case i think it’s mostly an issue with critics being too old to understand the internet.) sex and the city is always called a fantasy and i mean, yes, lolololol that they could afford any of the things they wear ever, but is it that much harder to swallow a show with a strong female support network than one where (from what i hear, haven’t watched, not gonna) the female friends are consistently awful to each other which is also very weird and unrealistic about class and money?
i dunno maybe i should just buy all the golden girls dvds and never watch anything ever again.
(the total whiteness of all of these shows bears mention although i dunno what else to say about it. it’s kind of interesting to me that the two shows that come to mind showing strong female-female relationships, namely community & new girl, are not all-white [although less not all-white than they could and maybe should be], but i dunno if that’s relevant or just a coincidence.)