i don’t know that i want women to let go of ALL their societally-ingrained uncertainty
quite as much as i wish dudes would fucking get themselves ingrained with some uncertainty of their own. everyone being super confident they are right all the time is a lot scarier to me than everyone being comfortable with not being sure about things (though i guess know — thought about it and realized yep — either is preferable to a world where dudes are the former and ladies are the latter).
(…but is it? do i want white women all confident in their assertions about the lived realities of women of color? which, uh, lots of white women already are? are you seeing what i mean here?)