andyhutchins asked: Okay, but also, re: those Nicki lines: As a person with a penis, having it "squeezed like a stress ball" does not sound appealing! That seems like Nicki performing her own sexuality, with little care for the dude!
i dunno i kind of interpreted the stress ball more or at least equally descriptive of the thing being squeezed? like, more conceptually about having a kind of squishy thing in your hand, and not about how hard one is squeezing? i don’t think she’s got his nuts in like a clenched fist, is what i’m saying. i mean what really gets me about those lines is that, right, she’s coming on his dick (cumming? i can never bring myself to write that) and licking it off (and let us not forget he said he like to hear the sound of her slurping it, i don’t think his enjoyment is ever that far from her mind) but also: “i mean it’s something so funny when i get it soft.” that’s so, like… i don’t want to say not sexual because lol duh, but it’s a vision of sexuality and sexual experiences that acknowledges that bodies aren’t just lean mean orgasm machines, they’re also usually kind of squishy and multifaceted and yeah, bodies can be pretty funny sometimes, and there are things that go on in the beds of people who are fucking, even who are fucking really hard, EVEN SOMETIMES who are fucking and really not doing much else with the time they spend together (some people you just don’t… need to talk to, that much), that are kind of silly and amusing and not done explicitly for the purpose of accelerating the road to orgasm. on the track, after that line, she laughs. sexuality is about more than what gets you off, is what i’m saying, and to me that moment falls into that more, in a really refreshingly, i hate hate haaaaaaaaaaaaaaate praising a female performer for her “frank” discussion of sex, but, like — i feel like it’s a lot easier to find people talking about the cock-sucking and the cum-swallowing (i can do the noun, strangely enough) and the pussy-licking and the fucking, duh, than to hear a quick sketch of an action in bed with two naked people that’s fun or even funny, but not hot.
i mean, or maybe she just has some kind of dick-squeezing fetish, who knows. but as a person who does not have a penis, penises are kind of funny sometimes.
